My guest today is my daughter, Barb Kent, who, apparently, is another budding writer in our family. People are encouraging Barb to either write a book, start a blog or do something more than simply post her prose on Facebook. We are starting to suspect the ability to write may be a genetic trait. I am both proud and happy to introduce her to you.
MY NEW MANTRA FOR 2016 – by BARB KENT
2016 is only 10 days old and already a mantra for my year has evolved naturally. I didn’t intentionally come up with one, it just sort of came about. It’s not, “The Year of Yes!” or “Magnificence and Mayhem”, though that would be pretty cool. It is “F-It!” Not in the cynical or negative way at all though. In the “let’s give yourself some freedom and have some fun” kind of way.
Sadly, it has taken me 54 years to really feel this way deep inside. I’ve spent those years worried about what others thought of me, feeling so badly if someone didn’t like me and, as the years will do to us all, letting the tragedies of life shrink my life out of fear. I think what finally changed was getting my nose pierced. I can almost hear the gasping right now. I’ve wanted to do it for years now, but I thought it was ridiculous for someone my age, I was worried I would regret it and what people would think of me.
Then one day a 70+ woman came into the store and as I talked with her, I noticed her nose piercing. She had that amazing spark in her eyes and she was looking at climbing gear. I told her I wanted to get a nose piercing but was afraid of looking ridiculous. She told me, “Oh Honey, do it! If you don’t like it you can always take it out!” and it freed me up! How had I made something so simple so complicated? How had I gotten to where I second guessed every single decision and desire I had?
The next day I went. When it was done and I looked in the mirror, my eyes teared up with happiness. I found myself hugging the huge, hairy, tattooed and pierced man who did it and telling him how he changed my life! Ha! But he was just the vehicle. For some reason it did, because I finally learned to say “F-It” to those fears that kept me from being who I am inside and it felt amazing.
My husband said it looks like I have had my nose pierced forever because it just looks like me. I’ve said “F-It” to quite a few things so far this year and I’ve not regretted it once. I’m thinking your life may need a little less, “I shouldn’t. I’m scared” and a little more “F-it”, too? Here’s to 2016, a year of good “F- its”!
Barb Kent was born and grew up in Cincinnati, Ohio, moving to Colorado in 1982. She is the mother of two adult sons, one of whom she lost in a mountain accident in 2010. A former personal trainer, she is an avid reader, talented writer and loves nothing more than the mountains where she lives. She spends as much time as possible outdoors hiking, snow-shoeing, skiing, or running and gardening in the warmer months. Her closest buddy is her beloved rescue dog, Bella,who is always at her side. She is married and lives with her husband, dog Bella, and rescue cat, Dollie. In her spare time, she loves nothing more than chocolate and a good book.
Barb and I would love to hear from you, so please leave a comment to let us know you stopped by.