The title today was told to me by my late, great, beloved friend/cousin, Marilyn. We used to talk on the phone up to five times a day, even though she lived in  California and I live in Colorado.  She would fly to our house several times a year and stay for a week and was absolutely the best house guest we’ve ever had. She was one of those rare gems that fall into your life and is there for you no matter where they are, what time of the day or night it might be or who they are with. Unfortunately, she passed away four years ago and I cannot put into words how much I miss that woman. When her granddaughter (and only grandchild) was four years old, she spoke the words of wisdom that are my title to her grandmother who shared them with me.

The reason that quote leaped into my mind today is because, via the USPS, we received both an invitation to our great-granddaughter’s first birthday party and one of the presents we had made for that important occasion. It is difficult to believe she’s been with us one full year already. She is our first and only (so far) great-grandchild, which makes her pretty darned important.  We are blessed that she is beautiful and healthy with a vivacious personality that she reveals through hilarious facial expressions that boggle her mother’s mind. But they are super cute and only show what is yet to come. In other words – we ain’t seen nothin’ yet!

Now that we are great-grandparents, we find ourselves remembering when we were younger – the good times, the bad ones and everything in between. As the old adage states, with age comes wisdom. It takes awhile before you actually realize the truth of that expression, but now we can clearly see it is right on target. It makes you realize how much time you have spent on things that, in reality, are of no importance. So many things that seemed to be earth shattering a decade ago seem so insignificant now and it’s hard to believe anyone would devote time to them.

With the birth of this wondrous little girl child, we look back at raising our own kids (without a manual!) and the unbelievable joy of grandchildren. What I have now learned is, mixed in with the excitement of watching a great-grandchild grow, there hides a  subtle sadness, just barely detectable. It’s quietly lurking there for all the first things they do. It’s then you truly realize how fast time passes and how important it is to fill each day with something that’s fun and enjoyable. Get out and be among people. Walk through the woods. Listen carefully to silence. Feel the breeze on your body. Catch snowflakes on your tongue. Dance in the rain. Sing in the sunshine. Be grateful for just this day.  Most importantly, try to find something to laugh about and if you have someone to share that laughter with, do it. The three in the picture are some of our grandkids when they were younger, laughing with (possibly at – but that’s another story) me. Shared laughter is never wasted.

Hard lessons to learn. It comes with age. And it’s a gift. It saddens me that the world seems to be filled with nothing but hatred for each other and people hell bent on changing even the most mundane of things, just because if they throw a big enough fit, they can do it.  Yes, in life you gotta be there every day, so why not enjoy it.

(Your comments are always welcome, so don’t hesitate to leave one to let me know you were here.)

About jtzortman

Author of "WE ARE DIFFERENT NOW" - A Grandparent's Journey Through Grief, first place award winning novel "FOOTPRINTS IN THE FROST" and award-winning novel "SNOW ANGEL", and the first of three novellas in her The Drifter Series called JAKE - Whiskey, Water & Wildfire. Contributing author to anthologies "Felons, Flames & Ambulance Rides", "American Blue", "Recipes by the Book: Oak Tree Authors Cook" and "The Centennial Book of The National Society of Daughters of the Union 1861-1865". Numerous articles, poems and short stories published since 1990. Charter Member of the Public Safety Writers Association and member of Rocky Mountain Fiction Writers. Winner of ten writing awards. I live in a quaint Colorado mountain tourist town with my husband and Siamese cat. When deeps snows blanket the terrain and spectacular views from my windows, it becomes the perfect spot in which to write.
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  1. Absolutely love this post, Jackie. Must share. Some people wonder, because they know of my various passions, why I don’t get more involved in throwing those fits you mention at the end. It’s because I too have come to realize there’s a balance in being there enough to catch the joy. Beautifully said.


  2. jtzortman says:

    I’m so glad you liked it, Nancy, and that you left a comment for me. Also, thank you for sharing it.


  3. Sarah Johnson says:

    Those thought about being there everyday get lost in day to day life. Thanks for this post! It came to me at just the right moment. Love you!


  4. mmgornell says:

    Beautifully said, Jackie. Yes, enjoy…

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  5. Carol Keller says:

    Loved your post, Jackie. Living in the moment is a gift that far too many people let go by the wayside. If we really look, we can find joy just about anywhere. I always remember that joy shared, is joy multiplied and sorrow shared, is sorrow divided.

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    • jtzortman says:

      Thank you, Carol. I love your quote in your last sentence. Yes, sometimes it is very difficult to remember to live in the moment. It takes practice and dedication to accomplish that. I appreciate you stopping by my humble blog. Hope you are feeling better every day. You are one of the people I love sharing joy with…and love in general. Old friends are a treasure.


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